Needless to say, we meet a considerable amount of people throughout the course of our lives. Despite meeting so many individuals, only a handful end up sticking around for a good chunk of our lives, especially through our hardships, helping us grow as a person by changing our perspectives, pushing us towards our goals, inspiring us, supporting us, etc.
People don’t always positively walk into your life; they’re not always going to be very nice or fair. Some people may view these individuals as people who only stick by you when they need something from you, people who feel like they benefit something by putting you down, people who will only ever see you as a rival in competition, etc. Well, that’s one way of seeing it – if you’re trapped by the hurt, frustration and anger they’ve caused you.
If you allow yourself to overcome these emotions, you will realize that with regards to your future, these people really only provided you with experiences that will end up being beneficial to you. Some of these individuals may leave you stronger (physically, emotionally, and/or mentally), some may train you to exercise your patience, some may motivate you to do better and help solidify your determination, and some may strengthen your sense of empathy as you tend to be more considerate of those who find or have found themselves in your situation. You just don’t realize this until after they have stepped out of your life.
There’s actually a quote by Israelmore Ayivor that says, “You will meet a lot of people in your life; some laugh with you, others will laugh at you; some will love to clean your mess, others will love to mess you up! Love all, but choose carefully the one who stays close to you forever!”
This is true. Just because people come into your life providing you with hardships, does not determine the fact that they won’t be leaving you anything worthwhile. If you allow yourself to look at things from a positive perspective, you will find that each individual walks into your life to leave you something favourable. They may not always end up being a part of your future, but their role in your present is to teach you something valuable.
Therefore, it is important for you to reflect on how you can improve yourself from the interactions you have on a daily basis, especially with those you don’t plan to keep around for too long. However, these types of people come and go from your life very frequently. The types of people that are rare are those that, as mentioned above, “clean your mess and laugh with you.” If these people do come into your life, make sure you cherish them because they’re the ones that will help you get through the hardships that the other group of people put you through.